The other day as I mustered the will to clean the glorious white throne with my sparkling new toilet brush. I grumbled, sighed, and scrubbed to make it just right for the greater good of sterilization. In that conquest to ensure the bathroom once again offered the pristine scent of lemon cleanliness.
I paused for a brief moment and thought about what it means to be a mother? I don’t think there is a one size fits all definition on being a good mother. It is a thankless job and one that many do with each day with “grim determination.”
As mothers we all have our roles and at times it is easy to join the divide between working mothers and stay at home mothers. However, in that divide there is a middle and in that middle there is a beauty. As mothers in the middle of the divide we can take a step back and recognize that life is not a one size fit all category.
If there is a universal truth that we can rely on as Mothers it is a tough job, our paths are not always clear, but we all have a strong love for our children. It is in that strong love that we make our choices whether it be to be the bread-winner for the family or the mother that stays at home. They are heavy decisions which we all take to heart in our own lives.
In that time of tough choices you grow as a Mother – you are an individual tied to more than just a stereotype or a blanket statement. You are more than just a Stay at Home or a Working Mother you are your own distinct individual.
The next time we feel the need to judge the Mom sitting next to us – it is important to remember not one size fits all. Take comfort in knowing that she too has scrubbed her fair share of shitty toilets so the family throne is a welcoming white shrine of sparkly goodness.
The act of scrubbing a toilet is a job no one wants to do – but as Mothers we take it on as another factor of caring for our families. We can all relate to snapping on the yellow rubber gloves and scrubbing that damn toilet bowl. It just makes the job that much shittier when someone stands over your shoulder judging you. So instead of joining the great divide lets learn to accept each others choices.
It is important to remember that we are all trying to scrub that toilet, with our heads-up, in avoidance of that mysterious toilet water flicking off the brush, and flying straight into our eyes.
Side Note: If you are lucky enough never to have scrubbed a toilet in your life then I will judge you with a large amount of envy and eye rolling.
Darcie Cameron is a RYT 200 who believes Yoga is a gift that is accessible to everyone with proper modifications, a patient smile and just taking the time to breathe. One of the greatest presents you will ever unwrap is when you connect your mind, body and spirit in perfect sync with your own breath. Connect with Darcie on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/darciecameronlovesyoga