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Motherhood: The Act of Scrubbing the Toilet

The other day as I mustered the will to clean the glorious white throne with my sparkling new toilet brush. I grumbled, sighed, and scrubbed to make it just right for the greater good of sterilization. In that conquest to ensure the bathroom once again offered the pristine scent of lemon cleanliness.

I paused for a brief moment and thought about what it means to be a mother? I don’t think there is a one size fits all definition on being a good mother. It is a thankless job and one that many do with each day with “grim determination.”

As mothers we all have our roles and at times it is easy to join the divide between working mothers and stay at home mothers. However, in that divide there is a middle and in that middle there is a beauty. As mothers in the middle of the divide we can take a step back and recognize that life is not a one size fit all category.

If there is a universal truth that we can rely on as Mothers it is a tough job, our paths are not always clear, but we all have a strong love for our children. It is in that strong love that we make our choices whether it be to be the bread-winner for the family or the mother that stays at home. They are heavy decisions which we all take to heart in our own lives.

In that time of tough choices you grow as a Mother – you are an individual tied to more than just a stereotype or a blanket statement. You are more than just a Stay at Home or a Working Mother you are your own distinct individual.

The next time we feel the need to judge the Mom sitting next to us – it is important to remember not one size fits all. Take comfort in knowing that she too has scrubbed her fair share of shitty toilets so the family throne is a welcoming white shrine of sparkly goodness.

The act of scrubbing a toilet is a job no one wants to do – but as Mothers we take it on as another factor of caring for our families. We can all relate to snapping on the yellow rubber gloves and scrubbing that damn toilet bowl.  It just makes the job that much shittier when someone stands over your shoulder judging you. So instead of  joining the great divide lets  learn to accept each others choices.

It is important to remember that  we are all trying to scrub that toilet, with our heads-up, in avoidance of that mysterious toilet water flicking off the brush, and  flying straight into our eyes.

Side Note: If you are lucky enough never to  have scrubbed a toilet in your life  then I will  judge you with a large amount of envy and eye rolling.

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Darcie Cameron is a RYT 200 who believes Yoga is a gift that is accessible to everyone with proper modifications, a patient smile and just taking the time to breathe. One of the greatest presents you will ever unwrap is when you connect your mind, body and spirit in perfect sync with your own breath. Connect with Darcie on Facebook

35 replies

  1. I’ve spent a lot of time around toilet bowls, for reasons I’d rather not get into. That said, I think you’re right on about motherhood not being a one-size-fits-all kind of thing. In fact, it shouldn’t be. Each mother brings her own unique style and expression of love to her children and family. Unless someone forgets to put the seat down.

    Wishing you a very wonderful, scrub-free Mother’s Day 😉

  2. There’s always an equalizer among people. Who would have thought that for mothers it would be cleaning “the white shrine of sparkly goodness.” Enjoy your weekend: drink much, pee often. 😉

  3. I used to wonder why the toilet is referred to as a throne, but then I realized it’s a royal pain in the ass to clean!

    Good to see you back. I stopped by your blog just yesterday to see if anything new was happenin’.

  4. Father Scrubber here 🙂
    My household includes OH and I as well as four young adults between 16 and 22.
    …where do I start…

    With the bath, of course!
    and that includes the tiles & grout.
    Then the toilet, such a mess!
    “House’s full of pigs!” want to shout.

    Then the sink & Vanity,
    cleaned of muck, toothpaste and of fallen hair;
    and the floor -especially the part
    behind the toilet which I clean with especial care.

    I hate it too, just as much as you do;
    A job I honestly have come to utterly despise.
    A step down from mowing the lawn,
    barely a step up from sticking a fork right in my eyes.

    Whiskey helps, but
    I could never afford the amount I need.
    Oh S&%t, just cleaned ‘er up,
    then one by one the whole house peed!

  5. Love this post… so true… why do women always turn on other women? We need to stick together…. So excited to read a post.. missed you my friend!

  6. I love that I married someone that balances out the household chores – he likes cleaning the bathroom while I clean the kitchen and do the laundry. I would rather take on 2 chores to the 1 chore of bathroom cleaning – ha! I sent my mom a pretty darn funny card for Mother’s Day – it states that I am glad she never ran away from home when we were growing up, especially with the crap we put her through some days/weeks/months/years 🙂

  7. Ok, I think I came to this post via FB, or something like that last time, ( Oh no it was WordPress Reader ) but this time I drifted in via my honoured Blogroll, and I have to say I almost fell of my chair at the very smart and even posh layout you’ve managed to acquire. Next time \I shall knock before I read your posts !

    1. Thank you! I thought I would try a new theme out and see how it goes…I am just getting back to the swing of things and hoping soon to be back on regular rotation. I ordered your book, watched for it in the mail, and it never appeared. I am going to have to remedy this with Amazon next week. I look forward to reading it!

  8. thank the Universe for mothers – especially those that lovingly take care of the toilet bowl. i have to tell you this funny thing. on one blog i follow, i read that in Japan there is a belief that there is a toilet god. the followers make sure they keep the bowl squeeky clean as the god helps with health and fertility.
    funny huh? 🙂

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