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A Year that Matters

I am going to be honest and reconcile that 2013 has not been the best year for me. I have been gritting my teeth, stalled in one place, and recognize that it is time to move forward on an unknown path. I have decided to move forward on this first day of spring as my New Year a renewal of who I am and who I will be in the future.

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In Umair Haque’s short essay How to Have a Year that Matters he points that as we move forward we need to look beyond ourselves in order to live our life to the absolute fullest because our only enemy is time.

“Follow your passion, we’re often told. But how do you find your passion? Let me put it another way: what is it that breaks your heart about the world? It’s there that you begin to find what moves you. If you want to find your passion, surrender to your heartbreak. Your heartbreak points towards a truer north — and it’s the difficult journey towards it that is, in the truest sense, no mere passing idyllic infatuation, but enduring, tempestuous passion.”

It is that enduring passion which breaks your heart because nothing has ever been created without some fear of rejection. The thought of believing in something so big but the whole time it never believed in you. Was it ever really your true North?

As I turn a page in the next chapter and celebrate my new year by staring at the bleak outside and know that soon the snow will melt, the cold will vanish. The sun will rise, the tulips will bloom, and the world will shine, again. I will discover my North Star with trepidation and excitement. I will follow it and let it guide me through the roughest times.

As Haque points out:

“For the simple, timeless truth is: You’ll never find the rapture of accomplishment in mere conquest, the incandescence of happiness in mere possession, or the searing wholeness of meaning in mere desire. You can find them only — only — in the exploration of the fullness of human possibility.”

It is from this day I forward I am going to use my ability to make the choice to live my life to the fullest potential and possibility.  It will be full of laughter, happiness, pain, rejection, and heartache.   It’s time to starting have a year that matters!

How do you have a year that matters?

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Darcie Cameron is a RYT 200 who believes Yoga is a gift that is accessible to everyone with proper modifications, a patient smile and just taking the time to breathe. One of the greatest presents you will ever unwrap is when you connect your mind, body and spirit in perfect sync with your own breath. Connect with Darcie on Facebook

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  1. The hardest thing about change is the first step……..and many steps in between. I am sorry to hear that life has been smacking you around and wish for you a year, and a life, that matter.

    1. Thank you! It has been a horrible year but it hasn’t been a good year. I just need to move forward and focus more on the things that matter in life. Sometimes it just isn’t healthy to have your nose to the computer or phone day and night. I have to change that and I am just going back to what I love to do 🙂

  2. Very nice. The new year has so far produced nothing that I had hoped for, but there is still time to salvage something out of it I am sure.

    Look for the rainbow.


  3. I am sorry that this year didn’t start off on the right foot, but I like how you are doing a “do-over” for spring… I don’t know if we every have a year that matters or if every year just matters… Do you know what I mean? I have been doing a lot of soul searching lately, trying to understand what really matters to me. I feel like I have changed so much after the storm and not at all at the same time….

    I hope you have a year that matters, but i hope that you just enjoy the journey… like LDSRR said, look for the rainbow, it is there…

    1. I do know what you mean and sometimes we have to look deep into ourselves to figure out. You have had such a rough year that I can’t even imagine how much pain you went through but it shows how adverse you are in the eye of the storm. Hilary, you are an inspiration!

      The journey is the best part for better or worse and the rainbow is just above the horizon. Lets hope for a warm and beautiful spring!

  4. Look. You are one of the top people on here I know, and your posts often make me smile or wish to save up for a holiday, so I suspect you are doing a lot more “right” than you imagine. It might be that the winter weather has affected your mood. I’ve no way of knowing. What Haque says is absolutely on the money, and listening to him is a sure way to start the Spring off on the right foot. I have recently been researching the health benefits of Afternoon Tea which I now consider to be considerable. Apparently the secret is in the scones. I would love to share one with you one day, and exchange a few useful life-tips.

    1. Thank you, Pete! I suspect the winter weather has hampered my mood and this last storm was the icing on the cake.

      Haque was a gem to discover as the snow was falling to the ground and helped me realize how much more there is to life that I am missing. Sometimes we just get stuck in the cave and forget about the light. It’s time to start living in the light, again.

      One of these days I will fly across the pond and we will meet for afternoon tea. I look forward to it!

  5. Good luck to you, Belle. My old yoga teacher used to say to me, “A broken heart is an open heart.” I agree. We would never chose to open ourselves, but life does crack us open from time to time and honestly, I can say, I do believe these are truly times when we do grow. It helps to have good support when you are vulnerable, too, otherwise you have to go into defensive mode.

    1. It’s better to have a “full a row boat” to weather the storm and then go it alone. If we are to live with an open heart than sometimes we have to be prepared to have it broken. But the lessons we learn can be invaluable.

      1. but it seems we can never prepare “enough” for our brokenness. To be properly broken it seems one must be surprised ;0

        To be broken again is in a way a sign of good fortune; I think it implies we have mended to the point of forgetting. This is a sort of necessary amnesia, perhaps, designed to keep us going. Oh, I love this life! And the lessons to be learned from the dear and ruptured heart. This is a privileged education for sure.

  6. I’m a firm believer in following your passion at all costs. Life is much too short not to! And it’s funny: you can’t wait for the snow to melt, while I am disappointed that there we saw no more than a few flakes in the sky all winter out here. I WISH there was snow to melt! All a matter of perspective, I suppose.

    1. We had one of our worst storms yesterday and I took minute to admire the beauty. I know in another week the temperatures will begin to rise and this is the last storm of the season. *fingers-crossed*

      Also on the brightside it will make for excellent spring skiing and snowshoeing.

    1. Virginia, you have so much strength and courage that I know you will hold your head up high to face it. I wish only good things for you and your family this spring.

      We can be optimistic together and look for the rainbow.

  7. Maybe it’s age, but I just don’t resonate to words like “incandescence”, “searing”, “rapture”. The rhythm of ordinary days is enough for me – never boring, yet always filled to the brim with delights I never recognized in my youth.

    The very notion of setting out to have a year that matters somehow amuses me. Not only does every year matter, every day matters – infinitely. Last week, I had a misstep on the docks and landed in the water. I wasn’t injured, wasn’t harmed in any way beyond a slightly scraped leg, but it need not have been so. Had circumstances been different, I might not have been here now. Perhaps that’s one reason I’m feeling so strongly that what “is” is good enough.

    1. You are right every day does matter and the little things in life are what make it great. I am not looking for the rapture but I am looking forward to getting my nose out of the computer and off the phone. I just want to get back to the basic that I love like being outside, enjoying time with my family, and having more time to write. It is those things that are and will be good enough for me.

      I am very glad to know that you were not injured from the fall.

  8. Once you take the first few steps you’ll be on your way. Don’t over think it, just do it. It’s our own fears that hold us back. Don’t fear, do it and be on your way to happiness:)

  9. Belle, you might have been me writing. I have had two terrible years but there comes a time when the light of dawn begins to show, and the birds begin to sing a dawn chorus. Hope this is that time for you 🙂 Lots of love x

  10. Ah, yes, I know it well. End of 2012 and start of 2013 was pretty terrible for me also, my friend. But, I just kept the faith and asked for the good Lord’s help. I even tried meditation a few times. Into March, I found many things started falling into place. You know what changed? My attitude. Only ME changed. I stepped back to a more objective vantage point. I also forgave myself for my mistakes, and I started to be kinder to myself. I made a more conscious effort to appreciate the good things and how fortunate I am. You can’t expect the world to change, but if you change your perception of the world, you will start to see things very differently. Hugs! 🙂

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