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Digging in the Trenches

I have days when I’m tired of expert advice and their suggestions about how to blog to be ranked better.  You know the social media expert who asks the important questions:

  • Are you using the right tools?
  • Are you social networking properly?
  • Are you telling twitter you are picking your nose?
  • Do you share enough? Like that time you had that wedgie?
  • Do you have a button?

Why! Yes! I do have a button it’s the one that says Sex Pistols!  I use to wear it on my jean jacket because it made me look cool! 

Life is about priorities I want to read good books, enjoy time spent with my kids, and  enjoy the process of writing.  Blogging for me is  a creative outlet to attempt to polish my skills and relieve tension from a busy day.

I love connecting with such a spirited group of bloggers that make my day with their own insightful posts. If there is one thing I relish is how many of you share your dreams, your short works of fiction, your great ideas, and vent if you really had a bad day.

The blogs I enjoy aren’t always high in the ranks in fact they are digging  in the trenches. It is the quality of their writing, their authentic voice, which makes me want to stop by and visit for a cup of coffee.

It is  when I read expert advice I know they are just trying to help many of them being in the very same trenches that we  are all standing in, muddy, and digging. However, I’m tired of expert advice because all I really want to do is read great blogs and fucking write!

Now can someone explain to me how Tribber works? Kidding!

Do you ever get lost in the maze of expert advice? Is there one social media tool you love to use? Or hate?

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Darcie Cameron is a RYT 200 who believes Yoga is a gift that is accessible to everyone with proper modifications, a patient smile and just taking the time to breathe. One of the greatest presents you will ever unwrap is when you connect your mind, body and spirit in perfect sync with your own breath. Connect with Darcie on Facebook

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  1. I kid you not, I was just eating a bowl of tortilla soup at the QFC and writing a blog post in my head about why exactly I do not write expert advice, even though, I am a frickin’ licensed clinical therapist and teach and preach and all of that in my real life. I too want to read good writing and fucking write!!!!! Expert advice, quite frankly, is boring as hell. So thanks for reading my mind and now back to the fucking writing 😉

  2. I’m reminded of reading Yahoo news and learning again the best ways to catch my man, interview well and find a new job in the best retirement city. Crazy enough, I sometimes read those articles and always groan at the pettiness and absolute lack of information. And then I’m amazed at the polar opposites in the quality of the stories that some of the bloggers tell. Authenticity is pretty nice stuff.

  3. I used. Really obsess over numbers. I read Anne Jackson a lot until she fried out. The best advice she gave me personally is “don’t worry about the numbers because you can’t control the anyway. People are fickle.” she is dead right. I’ll read copy blogger one in a while and Michael Hyatt because he works for Nelson Publishing and because his writing encompasses far more than just how to get published. I’ve done marketing long enough to sRecogognize that most of the alleged convos on Twitter is really marketing buzz in disguise. Knowing that really helped me lighten up and write for fun.

  4. Hi (worrywart here – different gravatar). I’m trying to figure out what the point of the expert advice is? Does anyone really want 50,000 followers? I love the reading and connecting (and I enjoy writing, too), but I’m content being part of a gradually growing close knit community rather than a arena full of strangers.

    1. Did you start a new blog? I have to run over for a visit? I think my brain would pop with 50,000 visitors! The stress of it all! I also prefer the comfort of a small group friends to sip coffee with and chat 🙂

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  5. I’ve given up on trying to worry about how many page views I’m getting and my ranking here or there. I do love to use Twitter and Facebook to read blogs, but I’m not too active there for my own.

    1. I love twitter! It’s a great way to connect, read blogs, and find out about events in the city. Facebook is my little spot that I share with family and friends. I don’t really use it for a blogging platform.

  6. Some ‘tude, I love it! I’m sure for some it’s fine, but not all bloggers are out to be blog queens. You have your framework where blogging fits, and for me, it’s a twice weekly outlet pulling my head out of…novel editing. 😉

    I’m with you, authentic voices matter. We all have our upsides and downsides, and I like to see both addressed.

    1. Exactly 😉 I wouldn’t be a very good blogging queen my tiara would always fall off and my dress would always get dirty! I think that is the great thing about blogging is we do it because we love it! Sometimes we show a glimpse of ourselves that others don’t always necessarily see…

  7. It gets pretty over-whelming sometimes trying to figure out how, when and where to use social media!!! I love it all…but I want to do it by my own rules and in my own time. Sometimes a great article comes out with good, solid advice, but most times I just feel pressured. Blogging is supposed to be fun, right???

    1. Own rules! And you own time! Is exactly how it all should work! Blogging is about fun, it’s about your hopes, your dreams, politics, and interests. We all have our own little thing that makes us unique and you should never feel any pressure 🙂 Just write and have fun!

  8. Amen and amen. The mounds of advice is overwhelming for me, too. I continue to seek people I find interesting, who seem interested in others, and don’t worry about the rest. I wrote my blog when nobody read it, and I continue to write it when (almost) nobody reads it. Well, in the grand scheme of things. 🙂

  9. I write for myself. Plain and simple. My mind comes up with so much information at lightning speed that I have to get it out in some method. I know I irritate some people. I know that I piss some people off. But I’m not writing for them. High numbers are great, and they are exciting. Being reblogged is great. Being featured in another person’s blog is great, but ultimately, I do it only for myself. And… my Mom is my biggest fan! 😉

    1. Mom’s are great! We can always rely on them to be our biggest cheerleader! You have to do what works for you – I think the minute you change or shift into something your not it can be a disservice to yourself. It is about the enjoyment and the creative spark.

  10. I have been surprised how quickly my blog took off and though I see the success of others, I do relish in what I have accomplished in a short period of time.

    When I started the blog, someone mentioned to me they too had a blog but not with great success. Three months, I spoke about some of my successes with my blog and this same person advised me that she felt my blogs should be a tad shorter.

    I found that interesting, because she was amazed at how well mine had done. People are always full of advice. I have learned to filter to what is “be me”. When I stick to does it fit into my ‘be me’ picture then I take it to heart, if not I let it go because it just isn’t me.

    I am going with my own flow and loving it.

  11. I simply write for myself and my readers. I use to worry about that expert advice, but I had better things to do – ha! Thanks for sharing and I will be here digging in the trenches with a big smile on my face:)

  12. Belle, you’ve done it again. Great post! I’ve been thinking around the edges of this topic lately, too. I’ve been taking a bit of a break from blogging to edit my friend’s book, and to see if I was addicted to blogging or not! I don’t think I need to go to rehab just yet, because I agree with you that most of us have fun and expression in mind when we blog.
    Just having taken up Twitter, surprisingly I love that little guy. Always something up on Twitter, but not much commitment needed. I’m so okay with that!
    Rock on, and you’ll always be the blogging queen/bohemian rhapsody of my heart!

    1. Thank you Mel! Your post really struck a nerve with me tonight and I am just discussing the issue with my husband. It left me with a lot to think about and what it means to step into the battle field. I hope you do keep blogging because I always look forward to seeing your posts.

      Enjoy your editing, and mini-break but make sure you share thoughts with us from time to time. It is always good to gain a fresh perspective 🙂 As for Twitter it can be a lot of fun! You never know what will cross your stream…

  13. Few months before coming up with my blog, I centered my interest in blog-hopping. I bookmarked other people’s blogs; one of which recounts some personal experience and thoughts of a 20-something. Another one is more like a guide to living a happy, productive life, while the other is some kind of a dating advice column. Those three, among others, I have religiously followed in the hopes of piling up writing styles, prompts and so-and-sos that I might integrate in my blog.

    And my blogger role models just keep on increasing in numbers.

  14. Oddly enough I just posted my first ever “how-to blog” post. I’ve been a blogger for a long time and never considered myself an “authority” who could tell someone else what to do. But the other day, while contemplating how I might implement “Nurture” (my guiding word for 2012) into my blog, I decided to share a bit of what I’ve learned about writing blog posts since 2003.

    That being said, I admit that like you I generally just want to read some good stories on blogs– and gain some insight into how other people think and feel. Still, just this once, I decided to go “expert.”

    1. Your tips are fantastic! They are excellent for newbie bloggers 🙂 It`s fun to go expert and I do enjoy at times reading those posts. It`s just the ones were they are preaching from the pulpit that erks me most…

  15. How true! I can completely identify with your perspective. I view my blog as a place to “work out.” It could be to exercise my writing skills or just work out a thought or two. The greatest joy is if someone reads it…and a bonus if they gain an insight, perspective or even like it.
    Keep writing and I will keep reading! Looking forward to your next post!!

  16. I still have my button (and I still naively thinks it makes me look cool…), only mine has The Specials emblazoned upon it =)

    Fucking write on sister, write on!

  17. I quit Facebook in November and have never ever been happier. It caused me endless strife. I have this theory that it makes you less close to friends and family. Oh and quit Twitter less than a month after joining it. Strangely enough, my blog visitors went up after leaving these fellas. So maybe the opposite is true? Great blog–and I love that you blog because you love to write. Way to go!

    1. Wow! I don’t think I could quit facebook or twitter they are a part of my daily diet. I actually do believe that it would give you more quality time with the ones you love 🙂 I think it is very brave of you! The opposite just might be true. Thank you! I do love having a blog it’s a great place to get creative, meet new people, and gain a fresh perspective!

  18. This was great… I think it is easy to get caught up with trying to get more and more followers and how many hits you get in a day, but then you lose sight of what is really important and why you started writting in the first place.

  19. For some reason, I was a more relaxed blogger when only 5 people were reading my blog, and we were reading each others’ blogs and making stupid comments, ha ha ha. My blog was still on Live, and not here on WordPress. When we were requested to move to WordPress, our situation was the same, but only for a while. I was surprised when, for the first time, I saw comments from other people, and I was like, Huh ? Waaah ! Some other people can read my blog ? LOL

    1. LOL! Do you feel your voice is more expressive if it is just you with a roomful of five close friends? Sometimes it is easier to write when you just write for yourself. LOL! I felt the same way when people first began to comment on my blog. It meant a lot to know that I wasn’t just writing out to outer space 🙂

  20. So totally agree, Belle. I get really furious when WP try to set goals without asking me! They assume number of posts is the primary reason for my existence! When we want to do something new we will go to WP to ask how. It’s much easier when we are not bombarded by technotalk.

    1. I get a kick out of there goals and little quotes! They make me feel a warm and fuzzy! Like my own robotic cheerleader! If that makes any sense whatsoever 😉 Sometimes too much technotalk is bad for the soul!

  21. I love twitter but there isn’t really any social media that I hate as such!

    I don’t follow social media experts because their advice either doesn’t work or you are already doing that thing!

    I don’t think you need their advice either! You are doing great!:)

    What about you? What is your social media of choice?

    1. Thank you 🙂 I think you are doing pretty great too!

      I have a twitter addiction but my first love is BlogHer. It’s where I discovered blogging, learned how to blog, read so many great posts, and a wonderful place to meet so many other exceptional bloggers.

  22. I just love coming here . . . always get straight to the point messages. For me, being a simple minded creature, stats and intricate, involved how-to-do posts go way over my head anyway so even if I attempt to read them, the message gets lost in the wiring of my brain. Retrieve damn it, retrieve . . . epic fail. Wiring goes back to simple Simon me. What’s Tribber? Really. (see how simple these brain cells are?)

    1. Hahaha! I am very straight to the point no tap dancing here 😉 Tribber is an odd creation within itself…You join and then get invited into communities of other tribes (bloggers) and you can interact with each other. But the weird thing is it will tweet from your account everyone elses posts. I got about that far – I realized it wasn’t for me. I like having the freedom to tweet what I like 🙂 Did that make any sense at all?

      1. Yes, makes perfect sense but sounds a bit communistic. Or am I imagining it wrong? Besides, the name Tribber doesn’t sound a bit appealing. 😦

  23. The only social media link I really use for my blog is facebook – just so that folks I know can read it if they want to. I’m often surprised by who reads it (like my brothers!) And expert advice is something I sort of try on for size, like a jacket – and after wearing it for a bit, I feel like I can’t move around freely, so I toss it aside after getting a feel for it.

  24. I love Facebook pages. I’d been focusing on Twitter up until Chris pointed me toward Facebook pages. TMiYC now has a few thousand friends, and it’s how most buyers of my first book have found it. By then I was fed up constantly trying to do Twitter “right,” so I dig just letting loose and doing what I want to on the FB page. I see how I could get more folks to like the page, by the same token, but I’d rather be me. 🙂

    1. That is awesome! It’s great that is so accessible and your book sounds like it is really taking off! If I ever have a book looking into the distant future I think I would be compelled to have a facebook page to promote my blog and book 🙂

  25. That’s the spirit! If you want to tell Tribber you have a wedgie, you go right ahead! 😉 I have been meaning to get our blog on Facebook too… maybe one day soon!

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