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Communication: It’s All Greek to Me

Do you ever have one of those moments where you stop listening to your partner in the middle of a disagreement? It feels like you are speaking in Greek and they are  speaking tongues neither  of you getting the point of the conversation. It’s at those moments you want to throw your hands up in frustration and scream “I give up!”  

I know exactly when my hands begin to flail that I have failed communication 101. It is that crazy thing called active listening that I forget  when trying to prove my point to my significant other.

My ultimate goal is to be right!  I want to be one step ahead of the debate – ready to throw my opponent under the bus. However, there is the odd time we are debating  but oblivious that we agree on the same valid points.

It was just the other day I listened to my two little men have one of those conversations.

“Robert, have you seen my Nintendo DS?”

“I saw it last year!”

“The last time I saw it was last week!”

“Yes! That was last year!”

“No Robert! That was Last week!”

“Alex, that was last year!”

As I listened to Robert torment his brother  and chuckle as he waited for Alex to realize last year was last week. It reminds me that  we need not hear but intently listen to what the individual is actually telling you. Sometimes it can make all the difference in how we communicate with others on the off-chance that we both might be right.

Have you ever debated your point until you are blue in the face only to realize your opponent agrees with you?

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Darcie Cameron is a RYT 200 who believes Yoga is a gift that is accessible to everyone with proper modifications, a patient smile and just taking the time to breathe. One of the greatest presents you will ever unwrap is when you connect your mind, body and spirit in perfect sync with your own breath. Connect with Darcie on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/darciecameronlovesyoga

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  1. Ahhh the Lovely Art of Communication and the many times it has failed us all in one aspect or another!!! I loathe confrontration and sometimes just agree to disagree – ha! Thanks for sharing:)

  2. Oh yeah, my husband and I can “go there” quickly, I am sure we have a trap door that takes us straight to misunderstanding. Oddly, it has gotten better in recent months, though I had given up. Miracles do happen. We pretty much don’t count anything that’s said while we’re blue in the face.

  3. Just a general observation – The whole point of shouting at the top of your lungs is so that the other would quiet down and listen to what you have to say, I find staying quiet a way more effective method to make the other one do the same.

  4. Happens to me all the time. I hear it is going to rain and he hears it is going to snow while sitting side by side watching the same news broadcast.
    It is selective hearing on this end and it can be funny after the fact to recall the conversations.

  5. Oh yes, it does happen every so often… can’t help it. My hubby is a know-it-all and has the ego to prove it. I have to try to prove him wrong at times, it’s not always a success but i won’t give up trying.

  6. Part of our failure to communicate, I think, stems from the fact that some of us never get over the temptation to be like Robert and knowingly speak in riddles, to somehow prove to ourselves that we are the “smart one.”

  7. Ha! I can’t even begin to count the times we’ve been “arguing” the same side, Richard and I. Both far too stubborn to stop and notice. Fortunately, we are arguers and NOT fighters, so it’s never a particularly big deal, but still . . . it makes me laugh when we both finally dismount the high horses and have that forehead-slapping moment of realization. 🙂

    1. LOL! You both sounds like the perfect fit 😉 We are arguers as well I believe there is a difference between fighters (they are a different breed altogether). Isn’t that moment the best! It always makes me laugh!

  8. Too funny that I just read this. Last night Jenny and I had a huge one! In our case, it’s not that we don’t realize that we agree with one another, she just frustrates me because she feels the need to “wordsmith” things to death. She’s a language arts teacher, I’m an engineer. Sometimes it’s tough reminding yourself that just because the question is yes or no, doesn’t mean you’re not going to get a thesis on why it’s yes or no. Lol.

  9. When you say, “Your view does not make sense,” you mean:

    1) “I don’t see the sense you are making, yet. Please tell me more about it.”
    2) “I don’t like the sense you are making. I know you make it. I just don’t like it.”
    3) “You don’t make my sense.” – People never make other people’s sense. They make their own…

    Understanding – To see someone’s sense as different from yours. To grasp their validity.

    All people make sense all the time…
    http://meditationsfromthehive.wordpress.com/2012/01/07/you-dont-make-sense-or-do-you/

  10. It’s really very difficult to “debate “on something that we are so passionate about. This is the reason why I don’t blog about politics. I know I have readers who are on the opposite side of the fence and I tend to be intolerant. things are bound to clash. I admit it’s one of my evil flaws that I need to correct. I have to listen to the other’s point of view.

    1. I think it is very important to listen to both sides of the coin when it comes to politics. You need to find the place in the middle in which you are comfortable. It is also good to know both side and makes for better debate because you sometimes know your opponents rebuttal before it comes out of their mouth. I don’t think you should ever shy from the topics you are passionate about…

      One of the great things is that there are a lot of great bloggers who can discuss politics openly with a rational mind. If you can maintain your rational thoughts without getting emotional. It makes the discussion of politics a much brighter field for play 🙂

  11. The conversation was really fun. Yeah, it happens often. We always try to defend ourselves in the belief that others are trying to refute us. Happy New Year to you!

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