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Flipping the Bird

It was just the other day my children and I attempted to use the crosswalk. One very courteous  driver stopped to let us pass but as we got to the middle of the lane, another  oncoming driver sped past us, texting, not looking up, and almost ran the three of us down.

It was that moment my ears burned red and I was angry! I did what any rational person would do – I flipped the jackass the bird!

My son looked at me giggled and said  “I’m going to pretend I didn’t see that!”

I gave him a smile “That is very wise of you.”

I know it is not my best parenting moment nor was I teaching my children about the importance of tolerance and patience. It was at that moment I suffered from a rare form of  pedestrian rage.

It is in these instances when drivers have little or no regard for people walking across the street and fail to recognize that they almost ran over your children.  It is at these instances I see black, my arm lifts up in the obvious motion whereas I automatically give that driver the universal hand gesture of the finger.

It’s moment like this I need to take a moment and reflect on my actions. I take a deep breath, get over it, and realize there are times in life when some people deserve to be flipped the bird! It’s one of those life lessons that we never want to teach our children but sometimes that middle finger just gets the better of us.

Have you ever  flipped the bird?

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  1. No, I ‘ve never made the sign, but I would if what happened to you would happen to me too. I’d go into a rage…. I mean, the driver could have killed my children ! Making the finger sign wouldn’t be enough for me.

    1. I’d go into a rage as well. This is different than flipping the bird because someone forgot to give you Ranch dressing. This is flipping the bird because there’s a small chance the lady will look up for a second from text-driving and catch a sign she needs to get back down to single-tasking.

      In cases like this, I wish we didn’t have to rely on the bird because people far and wide opted to drive conscientiously . . . and, y’know, within the law’s constraints. ><

      1. You are right this is different – all it takes is one persons carelessness to risk the lives of others. I think when you are driving in a school zone, look-up and keep your eyes on the road.

  2. It’s almost the Christmas season and every night it’s getting hard to flag down a taxi and when you do get to flag down one, the driver usually would try to negotiate the taxi fare with you instead of using the taxi meter. When you ask them to turn the meter on, they won’t really listen or they’d ignore you and drive away. That’s the time!

  3. I’ve flipped off a few in my life, but then we all err somewhere, and I’ve earned a few flip offs in return.

    I hear you when you say some deserve, the problem is one never knows who it is we flip off – it could be some nutcase who turns around and comes back ready to fight, or even armed. Heck, in my case, as soon as they knew i’m a) I’m a Democrat, b) a transwoman, or c) a dyke, they might well aim for me.

  4. I have indeed. I thought I was being discreet, but my kids all saw it -I learned that when I walked in on a conversation that started with “can you believe mom flipped that guy the bird?” LOL!

    I had another incident which disuaded me from doing so again – the driver followed me at a way to close for comfort distance while laughing hysterically.

  5. I would of thrown any and every possible thing at the car (except the children), and I would of told him a few bad words too. Ok, well maybe not a few, but ALOT!!

    I believe you took the calm approach to the situation. I flipped off people for less than that. LOL 😀

    1. I’m so sorry for your loss – it must have been very devastating for your family. All it takes is for one careless driver behind the wheel to end a life. I think it is a valuable reminder for all of us to slow down and concentrate when driving through intersections.

  6. Yes, I flip the bird too often when driving. My worst moment was moving from a city of millions to a city of 90,000. Someone cut me off, I pulled up beside them, looking them clearly in the eyes and flipped them the bird. Low and behold, new customer to our branch the very next day. Opps!
    I would also like to mention that you stated not one of your finest parenting moments. Actually it was. You taught your child that you too can loose your cool and how you can react. Yes sometimes, we should refrain all together but we were not created in perfection. We learn as we grow.

  7. I agree! Some drivers are just so inconsiderate!
    Did you know that during the blackberry outage, the number of fatal accidents in Abu Dhabi decreased by a large margin?
    I am glad you guys are safe:) Although, when i saw the title of the post i actually thought it was about birds! 😉

    1. wow! I had no idea! I think texting is very dangerous when driving! You just never know what could happen when you are driving. I think it is much better to keep your eyes on the road and drive 🙂 LOL! I’m sorry my post wasn’t about birds! I can always remedy that I’m sure I could write a post about parrots 😛

  8. I definitely have, but never in front of my son…yet. I’m sure the day is coming where some a** does something like this, endangering or really offending him or me. Drivers with that little regard for pedestrians scare me so bad!! How could you possibly be so careless?!

  9. I lived in Houston, TX too long. Flipping da bird will get ya shot. Now I just mouth off when alone and try hard to curb my tongue when others are along for the ride.

  10. Oh, that crosswalk of yours… Are you saying this is the first time you flipped the bird at a driver there? Well, if so, I think you need sainthood…. Because from what you wrote about that danger walk, you have reason to flip the bird on a daily basis. 🙂 And, yes, I have flipped the bird (and given the finger) more times than I am proud of…

  11. children do have a wonderful way of knowing the right and wrong and understanding parents’ actions in different situations. and i guess ur incident was good parent i suppose. think of the lesson ur child has learned about careless driving and how much hate they attract 🙂

  12. So I sat down and REALLY thought about it. I have no recollection of ever flipping the bird. It’s just not something I’d do. I’m more of a *shakes fist* “Curse the very day you were born, you no-manners puppy!” sort of person.

  13. Oh, have I! I’ve done my share of shaken fists at ignorant motorists, kicked the bumper of the guy who stopped exactly 1 milimetre from my kneecap, and done the top-of-lungs WAKE UP! shriek – replete with arm waving and expression of utter disgust. But, the last person I flipped off was actually my husband (I’m a little ashamed to say). He wasn’t driving, but boy did he deserve it!

      1. You know, I can’t even remember exactly. How horrible is that?!?! I think he made a joke in poor taste when I was doing something serious and I temporarily misplaced my sense of humour. My in-laws refer to flipping each other off in the hallway as “hall-way sex” and an indicator of a healthy marriage, lol!

  14. I have most definitely flipped people off in my lifetime. I think I have the Eminem syndrome. LOL. People are such idiots on the road that I found myself giving the finger at least once a day to someone. Then when I had kids I tried to calm that down, but I would be caught off guard once in a while just like you were. We are all allowed to have our momentary lapses of rage and shock when we are almost murdered by a careless driver. We all understand. 😉

  15. I am a firm believer that sometimes the bird is the only effective deterrent against certain future behavior. I’d have probably thrown in a few expletives too. So kudos to you for showing more restraint than me!! 🙂

  16. Have flipped the bird and will probably do so again. The last time I flipped, it upset me more than the flipee, so I have been trying to keep that in mind for my own sake. Temporarily, I’m on a flipping moratorium, not because I’m a goody-goody, but because I want to try to keep my blood pressure down. Does that sound weird?
    School zones are sacred to me and I really resent people speeding and not paying attention there!

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