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Call Me Old-Fashioned…

Do you remember the days at the supper table? The phone would ring and nobody would answer it because you were eating. It didn’t matter what who was calling because it had to wait. Meal Time  was family time regardless if you were crying over meatloaf and canned peas…

We always seem to be wired no matter where we go or what we do. It has become a part of our life. But isn’t there a time when we need to take a break from the connectivity. Isn’t supper time family time?

I wondered as my husband and I went out for a nice dinner. The perfect family sat across from us their daughter sat up right with her doll. She looked immaculate and was extremely well – behaved. She would play with her doll then look up to her parents. She would then wait for one of them to speak to her..

Her parents  both uttered not a single word to her! They were both on their phones, giggling, texting not paying any attention to this young girl looking up at them for recognition or some form of conversation. The girl sat straight playing with her doll,  quietly, waiting for someone to speak…

My husband and I both looked at each other and wondered have we become old-fashioned? Dinner time is a time to connect, laugh, speak with each other. It’s about talking about the present, your day, and making plans for the future.  Supper time is the time when you get to re-connect with your family  and stay in tune with your own children’s thoughts and feelings. I guess you can call me old-fashioned but at supper time the phone is tucked away and I’m laughing with my family!

Isn’t supper about family time, making the connection with your children and partner? Is there a time when we do need to put the phone down? What do you think?

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Darcie Cameron is a RYT 200 who believes Yoga is a gift that is accessible to everyone with proper modifications, a patient smile and just taking the time to breathe. One of the greatest presents you will ever unwrap is when you connect your mind, body and spirit in perfect sync with your own breath. Connect with Darcie on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/darciecameronlovesyoga

27 replies

  1. Call me old fashioned, too! Our house rule is no phones at the table…that applies to kids and adults alike, whether we’re sharing a meal around the kitchen table or out at a restaurant. No TV’s either. We’re there to share a meal and connect a bit with each other without the assistance of WiFi, cable or Cell Towers.

    So, when did we become the “When I was a kid…” ladies? 🙂

    1. Hahaha! I don’t know! I think we became “When I was a kid ladies..” at point radio stations started referring to Nirvana as Classic Rock :O

      I think it’s important to make meal time family time…If not how do you know what’s going on with your children especially as they grow older? You need to make that time to connect…I do have to confess when we have pizza night we all sit around the TV and eat! It usually involves Mantracker and excited discussion over who will win and sometimes a bet or two 😉

  2. When the kids are grown and gone, raising your grandchildren, the transition/lose for us olders is sometimes uncomfortable. You’re wise to enjoy your children now, and enjoy every moment. The child today morphs into an adult way too quickly. We love that adult, but mourn the lose of the child. Photos are priceless! Keep up the good work, I enjoy your writing!

    1. Thank you! I appreciate your positive feedback 🙂

      Children do grow quick! And I’m enjoying every minute of it! It will be amazing to see how the grow into adults and begin raising their own children. I hope too have many grand children! I think we have to enjoy all the precious time we can with them. Supper for me is our special time as a family.

  3. It is hard to say without knowing the circumstances – heh, maybe they were sexting each other) but in general, I agree. I’d not be talking it up on a mobile whilst in a restaurant, nor would I ignore my child. Parents interacting with child, with each other… those things matter.

    1. True – we don’t really know the circumstances… But is was odd nonetheless to see no communication with this sweet little girl. I think interaction is very important and sometimes as much I love social media we need to have an hour just to de-wire (is that a word?).

  4. Absolutely. meal time should always be family time. If my parents hadn’t taken the time to eat meals with me and talk to me, I would’ve never learned how to speak while in company or how to appropriately interact with people. Some of the best times I’ve ever had with my family have been while we were sitting around the dinner table laughing with each other. Mealtime always was, and still is, sacred. No one answers the phone. No cell phones are kept in pockets. Family time. Period. I will always be grateful for that.

    1. Thank you for your comments! Meal time is that special time and it should be sacred. In this day and age families are busy and it’s important to take an hour to slow down. I think meal time is the perfect time to bond whether it be gourmet or peanut butter sandwiches. It’s about finding away to spend time together 🙂

  5. Aw, I feel a little wistful reading this! Ba.D.’s job keeps him away until Li’l D’s bedtimes most nights, so it’s just me and the little one most nights. I don’t answer the phone while we’re eating, but he’s still young enough to be excited every time the phone makes a noise. He’ll exclaim, “Telephone!” and run to hunt for it, then bring me the phone . . . which I ignore on the table. I want him to feel like there are times he can expect my undivided attention, and this will be foremost among them. There was little that was traditional in my childhood home, but eating together was when we really did have something we knew we could rely on. I’d like to recreate that.

    I’d like, too, to not feel so tied to my phone otherwise! Up until I got my Droid last June, it didn’t matter if my phone was near or far. Now it’s a constant presence in my mind, ugh! I do try to avoid it when out with friends (save to ensure it’s not a text about my little guy) but it’s like it’s whispering, “Look at me, look at me.”

    I feel so sad for that little girl. I feel, too, a bit of a reminder in this . . .

    1. Awww! That’s cute! It’s funny how excited kids get over answering the phone. My little fellas love it!

      The droid is dangerous. I have those moments were I just want to check-in and hold myself back. But it’s important for kids to have our undivided attention, life can get so hectic, and we have to cherish the time we have…

  6. Whoa! Then call me old fashioned cause I demand we always sit down and eat dinner together. Every night. I love sitting with my kids and just watching them and listening to them.
    I want them to remember dinners like this and them going.

    1. I know! One day we will wake-up and they will be in university. I want to have those memories before they go. I think I’m going to be one of those people that suffers from empty-nest syndrome…I may need a lot of hobbies!

  7. I couldn’t agree more… that poor kid! Marc and I always see a couple in one of the restaurants we frequent. Like the couple you saw, they are always glued to their phones. The only time they interact is if one shows something to the other on the phone. It is so sad…. We always question, why go out?

  8. I do remember the no phone answering during meal time thing. Now mobiles are going off all the time. Very good questoon and hard to answer quickly so I won’t, but my kids never took a call while we were eating

  9. The only reason we answer the phone at dinner is for the fear that one of our remaining parents has died… Nothing else is that important to interrupt the only shared time we are guaranteed (and then only if sweetie isn’t on call).

    1. It’s true! If the phone ring early in the morning, very late at night, or at supper time – it has to be an emergency. Guaranteed time is necessary to maintain balance in most relationships. I hope your sweetie isn’t on call too much..:)

  10. Yeah I’m 18 and I think dinner should be family time, and no one should be on their phone or anything. I think the parents you saw at the restaurant were very rude to their daughter and I hope it’s not like that all the time…

  11. What a sad, sad story. When that child grows up and never calls or visits, her parents will wonder why she’s so mean to them and never realise they neglected her. I could cry for her.

    1. I could cry for her too. But I wonder if there were other circumstances? But it was just so strange to see this perfect child being ignored as they texted the whole supper…Why go out to eat if that is all you are going to do?

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