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Bubble Wrap and Freedom

As the end of the school year comes around the bend, I  have watched with pride how far my little men have  strided  and grown learning from their own failures and successes. I watch in awe how spirited they have become –  I wonder is it time to unravel some of the bubble wrap that surrounds them? It was just this weekend my nine-year old taught me an important  lesson knowing when it’s time to let go of the reins.

“Mom! Do we have any strawberries?”

“Yes! They are in the fridge. I’ll get them for you in a minute.”

“It’s okay Mom! I got it!”

I hear him open the utensil drawer, shifting through it, and peaked my head around the corner.

“What are you looking for?”

“The cutting knife.”

“I’ll cut them for you.”

“No mom! I can do it!”

Instinctively, I walked over getting the knife out of the drawer ready to begin slicing the strawberries for him. He put out his hand for the knife looking exasperated.

“Mom! I’ve done it before.”

“When?”

“When you were gone one afternoon and dad was downstairs working in the basement. I just did it. And I didn’t cut my fingers. Just let me do it.”

I handed over the knife and hovered over him watching intensely as he chopped up the strawberries.

“Be careful. Watch your fingers.”

“I know Mom.”

It was with that he carefully cut each strawberry,paying attention to every detail, ensuring his little  fingers were safely away from the blade.

Once he was finished, “See I did it! You know I’m going to be in grade 4 next year. I can do this stuff.”

It was with that small moment of hovering over my son, watching him grow to become more independent and responsible. I knew it was time to loosen the reins and give him a little bit more freedom.  If I want him  grow to become the confident young man he is meant to be, I can’t always hover, and  must slowly unravel  just a little bit more of  the bubble wrap that I have constricting him.

Do you think we give children less responsibility these days? How do you know when it’s time to unravel the bubble wrap?

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Darcie Cameron is a RYT 200 who believes Yoga is a gift that is accessible to everyone with proper modifications, a patient smile and just taking the time to breathe. One of the greatest presents you will ever unwrap is when you connect your mind, body and spirit in perfect sync with your own breath. Connect with Darcie on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/darciecameronlovesyoga

14 replies

  1. I do think we give kids less responsibility these days, or at least, I know I do. I’ve found, though, that if I let them show me when they’re ready – be it for reading, or climbing, or falling, or whatever – it’s less stressful for all of us. It is INCREDIBLY hard to watch them fall, though. I’m the mom at the soccer game who’s crying, not because her daughter just kicked the ball into her teammates face, but because I had to watch my daughter work up the courage to walk over to her teammates’ parents and apologize. She was ready.

    1. She was ready and she did it! Good job MOM!

      It is extremely hard to let them learn and fall. It’s scay but how do we let them grow-up if we don’t ? If we coddle them too much what lessons are we teaching them? I have to keep reminding myself…

  2. OMG I love every word of this post. I’m not a mom; I’m an aunt and I feel the same way with my nieces and nephews. I used to always tell them “don’t grow up so fast,” but I gave up on that mantra a few years ago. I love the bubble wrap analogy and got me thinking that it can be fun popping them one bubble at a time.

    1. Thank you! It’s true you don’t want them to grow up too fast. It’s hard to let them go….I’m really dreading the teenage years. It will be tough! I love thought of popping one bubble at a time! Maybe that’s what I should be doing instead of unravelling…It would make the process much slower and they would still be my little boys 🙂

  3. I certainly agree!!!
    I have learned as well to pull away. Especially with girls, god they think they know it all. So I always wait patiently (and hiding) around the corner. Cause one day they will yell for me!

  4. I’m funny that way. In some ways I totally encourage independence and have them do things around the house for themselves. I am trying to encourage them to make meals, and they have their list of chores that they have to do.

    But there are other areas where I know I am overprotective. My kids are older than yours, my eldest will be (gasp) 17 in a month, and the younger is 14. Neither of them has a cell phone, and I won’t buy them one. Neither of them is on facebook, and if they want to use the internet they need to do it at my kitchen table with me around. My daughter has some challenges and has undergone some pretty severe bullying and peer pressure in the past. I am afraid of what would happen if she was free on the internet, not necessarilyf because of what she would do, but the doors it would open up for other people.

    As for the cell phones, really? They don’t drive, they don’t leave the house, and they don’t use the phones at home! I just don’t feel there is a need. My husband I catch lots of grief from family and friends for how strict we are.

    1. My son has a lap top and he has to use it on the common area. It only makes sense to keep an eye on what their up too regardless of age. As well, I’m still out on the cell phone and facebook debate. I haven’t made any decisions but I think those things come with certains priveleges and rights. I feel for you about your daugther – it’s best to protect her. People can be very mean and cruel in this world….And sometimes it’s best to shield them from that 🙂

      As well, Facebook has it’s own issue, I would have to have access to password, be up to date on what their posting, and who they are talking too. But by the time they come around, I’m sure there will be something newer, and better to keep me on my toes. I’m really not ready for the teenage years. I think I need baby steps.

  5. I’m not sure how to answer the first question, honestly; most of the folks with kids I know IRL have kids around Li’l D’s age (20 months). Come to think of it, I’m not sure when it’s time to unwrap the bubble wrap. I’m hopeful it’s something I’ll do in little ways early on. That was my mom’s approach, and it seems to have worked well . . . but if I’ve learned anything in the last 32 years, it’s that nothing ever goes as I plan from the outset!

  6. It is hard for me to answer, because I dont have kids. I think there is a great difference between parents. I see both wasy. But, I think for the most part, kids aren’t given as much responsibility these days, as we were. I see it more when they get older….. Hardly anyone has summer jobs anymore. They don’t even look. Also, many graduate college and if they can’t imediately become the next head of a company just quit jobs withen weeks of starging. But, when it comes to little kids, I see so many involved in areas that seem so advanced for their age, and it makes me wonder if they have too much responsibility…. Your son sounds like such a cutie!

    1. Yes – you do! You have Alex and he’s a handful chasing that poor Gracie around 😉 I don’t know – I think as they get older my kids will have summer jobs 🙂 I wonder if they were coddled too much? And kids seem to be older when I volunteer at school you see such a diversified mature group of kids. Much more than I ever would be…

  7. This brought back some lovely emories for me. I remember my six yeqar old daughter teling me in great detail how to be careful with a hot iron. I enjoyed this lovely post

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