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It was just last week  temperatures plummeted to below-20 with a wind chill factor of -36. It was on those cold days I would bundle up and run. On most of the runs, I was fairly warm, with the right gear.  I enjoyed the brisk air, the snow-covered trees, and quiet trails.

I loved that there was not a soul in sight. I would just run with my thoughts and focus on my breathing. The problem maybe I enjoyed running solo a little too much.

Grace and I signed on to do the Resolution Run together. She doesn’t love running,  isn’t enjoying the cold weather, and since our last run she has become a bit of a thorn in my side.

We went out for a group run, the temperature plummeted, and it was obvious from her body language that she didn’t want to be there…The moment we embarked on our run, she started to complain, couldn’t breathe,too cold, her glasses were fogging up. I kept trying to be the cheerleader. But it wasn’t working. I could feel her negative energy seeping through her pores, festering all towards me.

I was beginning to get cranky, tired of cheering, being positive, and just wanted to get work out everything in my own head. It was hill training, it was hard, and I needed to focus on myself. The more she complained, the more tired I would become, within in minutes it all went downhill and became a very bad run. She just wasn’t in the right frame of mind and I didn’t have anymore energy to help her change her mind.  I would run ahead and then run back to check on her every few minutes. I was frustrated with her, and frustrated with myself for not being as patient or understanding as I should have been that night.

Needless, to say after we finished that run. She wasn’t happy, started to complain, I turned my ear, and went in a separate direction. The day had already been stressful with compromising with Mr. MBA, negotiating with the kids, and dealing other family issues. I just didn’t need anymore, all I wanted to do by this point was stretch, soak in a hot tub, and go to bed.

It was the  next morning she sent me a very nice email thanking me for cheering her on, checking on her, and she realized  that maybe she shouldn’t have run that night. She also recognized it wasn’t my fault that she was cold,  and her glasses kept fogging up. She also pointed out that all of her anger was festering from past  childhood experiences in phys ed.class, and I had become the target of it. I think this reflection was good. But for me it also made me realize maybe I’m better running on my own. It’s my time and I don’t have to deal with emotions, or other people’s baggage. Is it wrong to think this way?

The weather, has finally warmed, once again, but we decided to take a break from each other for the rest of the week. And maybe next week will be our week? It was our last run together which taught me  that sometimes running with a partner is like a marriage, it takes compromise, patience, and communication. But sometimes I just don’t want to compromise, communicate, or be patient. Sometimes,  I just want to run.

What do you prefer running solo? Or with a partner?

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Darcie Cameron is a RYT 200 who believes Yoga is a gift that is accessible to everyone with proper modifications, a patient smile and just taking the time to breathe. One of the greatest presents you will ever unwrap is when you connect your mind, body and spirit in perfect sync with your own breath. Connect with Darcie on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/darciecameronlovesyoga

14 replies

  1. I am more a biker / rollerblader than a runner. But, regardless of what exercise I do, I always prefer to go solo. I love the quiet time (sometimes the only quiet time of the day) and I love being able to go at my own pace regardless if it is fast, slow, or a little of both. I don’t like to have to keep up and keep a pace.

    1. I wish I could roller blade it looks so fun! But given my history of clumsiness it could be a disaster! I do just sticking my two feet in front of me without falling 🙂 It is nice to keep your own pace and not have to worry about anyone..It makes the workout much more enjoyable.

  2. I like both – running solo & with a buddy. My after-work and weekend runs are typically on my own. I focus on getting out there, staying in tune with my body, and taking in nature & the great outdoors. Though my mileage varies from 3-10 miles, these runs tend to be more relaxing.

    During the work week, I run with a buddy at lunch between 3 to 6 miles and we’re a good team. We run the same pace, both shoot for 25-30 miles per week, are training for some races together, and generally make each other better runners. If this wasn’t the case, I probably would lean towards solo runs. But if it wasn’t for my buddy, I wouldn’t have progressed as much as I have in the last 9 months.

    1. It’s nice to have a buddy to keep you in check and keep you motivated. Right now – I’m just not sure we’re on the same page. On a normal day we run well together but this past week,it’s been hard…She seems to be really down on herself, and stuck in some kind of funk. I try to listen,motivate, and cheer her on. But sometimes she just wants to stay in the negative. I’m hoping this week will be better and we will both be back on the same page 🙂

      Kudos to you! I hope I progress as far as you and keep it up!

  3. I’ll be honest…I prefer walking haha. I am not a runner. But it seems like everyone was out running races this weekend and I am SO impressed with those of you that do that!

    1. Thanks! I’m only getting ready for my second race! I keep reminding myself of the Turtle and the Hare -“Slow and Steady Wins the Race” It has become one of my mantras to keep me going 🙂

      Walking is great exercise! I love it on my off days! It’s a nice way to enjoy your surrondings! Keep up the Great Work!

  4. I prefer working out solo because I like being able to do the things I enjoy, go at my own pace, etc. I also like being with my own thoughts as well. I can certainly relate to your preferences. Each of us have to do what works for us.

  5. For the most part, I prefer to exercise alone. I feel less pressure to speed up or slow down that way. With only my own goals on my mind I can focus a lot more on the activity itself without having to worry about another person’s experience.

    That being said, sometimes the time goes by a lot faster with someone there to distract me.

    1. It’s nice to have a partner for a distraction! Someone to laugh with along the way but when it starts to turn sour it’s not as fun! But that being said I think it is balance of individual and group workouts which work best for me. I believe a partner will hold you accountable for your goals and it’s a nice way to stay motivated 🙂

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