Navigating Emotion and Creativity

Anne Kreamer points out in It’s Always Personal: Navigating Emotion in the New Workplace the greatest things in life that bring us to happiness “are the things we chose to do.”  It is by recognizing our own power to choose  which helps navigating  how we control and choose to live our own life.

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As we navigate the day-to-day in life we attempt to build our emotional intelligence in order to move forward to accelerate our creative path. It important to recognize that sometimes people will not always get along and  many of us speak in different languages of communication. At the end of the day how you treat people and how you are treated affects the balance of how we feel in the workplace or at home.

It is by bottling up our emotions and not asking the right questions which can lead us to more stress in our lives and stifle creativity. The bottom line is we have the power to choose how we want to live instead of depleting our happiness quota.  The most important tool is to recognize your  own emotions and then move forward learning how to navigate the source of the conflict which may be bringing you down.

Anne Kreamer sums it up perfectly with the advice given to her from Anne Sweeney, the President of Disney/ABC TV on managing creative people “I think emotion is critical to the creation of content. I love people who unabashedly tap into their inner lives, because the people who dig deepest in their personal stories come up with the best things.” It is those things which propel us to be better and create for the joy of happiness.

Just as many bloggers share their inner lives they are at their best because they are able to tap into their emotions and dig deep coming up with thought-provoking posts. The best way for creative types to seek this happiness is to step outside of their surroundings and tap into the environment around them. It is by taking the time to go on a hike with your children, or a photo walk in a city which can lead to inspiration and new ideas leading to greater happiness.

What helps to fill your happiness quota? Is it breaking free from the routine and tapping into your creativity?

Catty Comments: How Do You Handle Them?

Lois P. Frankel one of  tidbits of advice in Nice Girls Don’t Get the Corner Office is when you deal with opposition, negative comments, is to surround yourself with a shield of plexiglass. It is unbreakable, impenetrable, and will allow for you to move forward without dwelling on that one comment or suggestion.  If, we dwell on it too much it can harm us from going further in where we want to go.

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It would be nice if we were all made to be human robots and be able to move forward without being phased from that one passive aggressive comment or resisting the urge to smack the smug satisfactory look that comes across their face when they attempt to cut you at the knees. But does surrounding yourself with imaginary plexiglass really work?

At some point we have been in that scenario and are left off guard wondering “Did that person really just say that about me?”

In a perfect world everyone would get along and sing Kumbaya around the campfire roasting marshmallows. However, there is always competing interests, different points of view, and sometimes people just do not get along. It’s a fair assumption to realize not everyone will like each other.

It’s off-setting when you hear a off-hand remark when you assume the person is a friend. I think it is at that moment the plexiglass shield crumbles and leaves you left wondering what did you do to get on their catty side. The best thing to do is recognize what it is, be more wary, and move forward with the understanding of caution when dealing with this relationship.

We all have been cut  at the knees by words especially if used with the right flare of gusto and delivery. But it is those words that are a reminder of who that person really is and when to take a step back to evaluate the relationship for better or worse. Our time in life is precious and in an ideal world it should be spent on the growth of positive relationships and not the negativity of others.

So when someone goes out of their way to make you feel small are they worth your time? How do you handle catty comments?

Can You Spice Up My Zumba?

If you haven’t heard!

I have decided A Blogger Tip a Day is the perfect way to streamline my life to be more organized and improve my sense of well-being. It is with this I will be sharing with you a fellow blogger’s tip a day and implementing it into my life.

I believe this will be an exciting journey and I look forward to sharing it with you! If you have any tips you would like to share, advice,  or comments please feel free to drop me a line at abloggertipaday@yahoo.ca or just leave your tip in the comment box.

If your tip is chosen your name will be placed  a monthly draw for a twenty-five dollar I-Tunes gift card. So get those tips rolling in!

Help Kick My Rump Back into Action! How do you stay motivated?

What is Your Favorite Tip?

If you haven’t heard?

I have decided A Blogger Tip a Day is the perfect way to streamline my life to be more organized and improve my sense of well-being. It is with this I will be sharing with you a fellow blogger’s tip a day and implementing it into my life.

I believe this will be an exciting journey and I look forward to sharing it with you! If you have any tips you would like to share, advice,  or comments please feel free to drop me a line at abloggertipaday@yahoo.ca or just leave your tip in the comment box.

If your tip is chosen your name will be placed  a monthly draw for a twenty-five dollar I-Tunes gift card. So get those tips rolling in!

What is your favorite tip? And why does it work for you?

A Glimpse of the Cosmos in Musical Heaven

It was last night I got to live my dream of seeing Leonard Cohen for the first time in my life. My heart raced when he took to the stage and a small tear trickled down my face as he began with Dance Me to the End of Love. It was at that moment I knew I had discovered musical heaven for one glorious night.

I have always been cynical of the rock shows were the girl is sobbing or  others are screaming into fits of hysteria as their favorite boy band takes the stage.

As Leonard Cohen was in the  middle of  singing Who by Fire something stirred within me a combination of happiness, excitement, and the realization that I was finally at a Leonard Cohen concert.

I felt it building! I tried to stop it! I placed my hand over my mouth and out came  a loud, horrible, uncontrollable sobbing!

My husband looked on in horror, the woman sitting next to me looked concerned, and the man in front of me turned to see what made that ungodly noise.

It was me!

I was horrified that I couldn’t control this wave of emotion that shook through my whole body. I was that sobbing woman!

Leonard Cohen has been with me through every heartache, bad day, and sings to me when I need that special push of inspiration. Something awoke within me that I was on the floor only thirty-four seats from the one mans voice that has been a constant in my life.

He has always had a way of stirring my soul and last night I was in the church of Leonard Cohen. It was beautiful, amazing, transcendent, and glorious!  It was the best night of my life as I was lifted to musical heaven and caught a glimpse of the cosmos.

Is there a musician or musical band that you have dreamed of seeing in your lifetime?

Leonard Cohen and Me


Do you have a musical true love?

Moving Day!

In a few hours I will be moving from our little home on the park and getting ready to unpack the boxes in our new home. It is only up the street still walking distance of the children’s school and close to the friends that I have made throughout the past four years.  But it was a time for a change!

My husband drove by the open house with curiosity only a month ago as he did the walk – thru and called me to come see it! It was with hesitation I went to take a gander not ready to make promises.

We had been driving to other communities looking at the brand new show homes but the one thing they lacked was the community.I want my kids to grow in the community they know and prevent them from changing schools every three years.

So when I walked through this house I knew the price was right and it would keep me in the community that I have grown to love. My husband and I knew the obvious answer as we discussed it over coffee that this would be our house for the rest of our time we planned to spend in this city.

So in the morning light when I pick-up the keys to our new home I will dance with excitement for the wide open spaces. But in my heart I know I will miss my home that started it all! I will remember looking over the park where the kids would play,  the knocks on the doors from the neighbors kids, and look back on the tender moments that we shared in our special home.

It is this house on the park is one of the few that we have lived in as a family but it is another chapter full of beautiful memories.

 Do you have a special home that remains close to your heart?

Loser Girls

I had one professor he was brilliant, soft-spoken, and knew how to challenge his students. It was with crippling fear not to have done your reading and be faced with the consequences because he loved to debate everything.

He would ask the question, “What did you think of Popper’s method? How did it change the way the social sciences are viewed?”

He would look at the victim scuffing their feet and looking to the floor avoiding any form of eye contact.

“Mike, how do you feel about this?”

Mike would wait a minute, look around, “Oh! Are you talking to me? Well, I guess in science it’s not always important to look at the ethical outcome when you are observing how humans make certain choices.”

It was at this moment everyone would hold their breath and knew Mike had been cornered like a lost sheep against wall with no escape from the wolf lurking in the bushes. You could hear the sound of the pen drop and Dr. M would reply, “So you don’t think a person’s choice value is not influenced by his ethical choices in life?”

He would then give Mike the look the look that would make him shrink into the chair and want to cease to exist. Dr. M would then carry on with his lesson.

It was just the other day I was talking with an acquaintance about her daughter’s grade one class. She was complaining about the school fees, the teacher, and then she made a comment about the loser girls.

My ears piqued up “Loser girls?”

“Well! Yeah! You know the girls! Never have their homework done, never pay attention in class, their parents always forget to send in the forms.”

I felt a slight anger under my belly and repeated slowly, “Loser Girls in grade 1?”

“Yes. They are they don’t do anything. And I don’t want to be paying extra fee when their parents don’t send in the money.”

I bit my tongue, and stayed rational as listened to the ridiculousness of it all, “Loser Girls? Really?”

And then I stared at her I gave her the look that Dr. M once had given Mike.

I raised my eyebrow and gave her a stink eye that said more than any words would ever say to challenge her frame of mind. Her eyes looked away from me as I watched her attempt to blend in with the walls.

Sometimes words don’t always have enough meaning to make a person stop and think what they are saying before they open their mouths. I would like to thank Dr. M for teaching me how maintain rationality when faced with obvious stupidity.

In life there is one commonality that most of us can agree on and that is no girl should ever be called a loser. We talk about the mean girls, the implications it causes in school, and how they can be hurtful to other children. It is parental attitudes such as this Mother which make these mean girls exist and it’s time to give these women a taste of their own medicine.
Do you believe some words aim to hurt? And are just not funny?

Keeping it Intimate!

{ Bella at One Sister’s Rant is one of my favorite stops on the blogging trail! She is smart, funny, and insightful! One day I am going to purchase that VW toaster van and we are going to drive off into the sunset blogging along the way to a town near you. Her One Question for me  is “What defines intimacy in a relationship and how can couples acquire it?”  I just realized I  didn’t answer the question at all and will have to go back to it in the future.}

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