My Campfire Reading List

The summer I graduated from high school I went on a road trip with my sister to New York city in search of the perfect apartment before she attended Fordham University in the fall to complete her master and PhD.   We drove down from New Brunswick in a little white Mr. Bean car with no air conditioning in the sweltering heat that you had to park on the hill in order to get it to start, again.

It was an exciting time and an eye-opening experience for this little country bumpkin who had never taken a subway before or seen a skyscraper. The only advice I followed  on that trip from my wise teenage friends was not to look-up when walking  ”because you don’t want to look like a tourist.”

It was on that trip I learned to navigate the subway system, devoured pizza in little Italy, and attempted to drop a penny off the Empire State building. It was an exciting time for this young seventeen year old who got to look-up to her older sister.

My sister is now the Director of The Great Books Programme at St. Thomas University inspiring young minds to think harder and strive to be better in all aspects of their lives. I have great admiration for her and  am honored to not only have a fabulous sister but a best friend until the very end.

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As I  began to gear up for a great camping  season I realized I would be spending a lot of time in the wilderness  with many beautiful evenings curled up by the campfire.   It was the perfect opportunity to read many books in the silence of nature.

As I hummed and hawed at the book store over what to get I thought the simplest thing to do is make my sister compile a list for me. She has a good eye for Great Books!

“Can you give me a list of ten books to read this summer?”

“Any books?

“Yes. Any book you want!”

It is this list which I will be reading over the summer months and sharing my thoughts with you on every second Friday.

Baseball Books
The Brothers K , David James Duncan
Calico Joe, John Grisham

Scary Thriller
The Snowman, Joe Nesbo

Fun meaningful
The leftovers, Tom Perotta
The Goon Squad, Jennifer Egan

Literature
All the King’s Men, Robert Penn Warren
Master and Margarita, Mikhail Bulgakov
Kokoro,  Natsume Soeski
The Ministry of Special Cases, Nathan Englander
Phantastes,  George MacDonald

I hope you follow along my reading journey and find one that you might enjoy too!

What are you looking forward to reading this summer? Will it be by a campfire?

A Year that Matters

I am going to be honest and reconcile that 2013 has not been the best year for me. I have been gritting my teeth, stalled in one place, and recognize that it is time to move forward on an unknown path. I have decided to move forward on this first day of spring as my New Year a renewal of who I am and who I will be in the future.

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In Umair Haque’s short essay How to Have a Year that Matters he points that as we move forward we need to look beyond ourselves in order to live our life to the absolute fullest because our only enemy is time.

“Follow your passion, we’re often told. But how do you find your passion? Let me put it another way: what is it that breaks your heart about the world? It’s there that you begin to find what moves you. If you want to find your passion, surrender to your heartbreak. Your heartbreak points towards a truer north — and it’s the difficult journey towards it that is, in the truest sense, no mere passing idyllic infatuation, but enduring, tempestuous passion.”

It is that enduring passion which breaks your heart because nothing has ever been created without some fear of rejection. The thought of believing in something so big but the whole time it never believed in you. Was it ever really your true North?

As I turn a page in the next chapter and celebrate my new year by staring at the bleak outside and know that soon the snow will melt, the cold will vanish. The sun will rise, the tulips will bloom, and the world will shine, again. I will discover my North Star with trepidation and excitement. I will follow it and let it guide me through the roughest times.

As Haque points out:

“For the simple, timeless truth is: You’ll never find the rapture of accomplishment in mere conquest, the incandescence of happiness in mere possession, or the searing wholeness of meaning in mere desire. You can find them only — only — in the exploration of the fullness of human possibility.”

It is from this day I forward I am going to use my ability to make the choice to live my life to the fullest potential and possibility.  It will be full of laughter, happiness, pain, rejection, and heartache.   It’s time to starting have a year that matters!

How do you have a year that matters?

The Great Fall: Jennifer Lawrence and Me

Sunday afternoon was when the great fall took place!  It happened without warning! All of a sudden  I was laughing as I began to go down the stairs and seconds later I was laying flat at the bottom of them. It was at that moment I took a very deep breath and attempted not to unleash a slew of profanities in front of my children.

After  fainting and a visit to the ER I  then watched the last of the Oscars with a slice of greasy pizza.

jennifer-lawrence-fallAs I watched Jennifer Lawrence   begin her descent up the stairs she fell and in my Tylenol 3 coma I muttered “What a beautiful dress! It’s just so beautiful! Look it even looks fantastic when she falls!”

After the announcement of Best Actor and Movie my husband decided it was best to usher me off to bed. As I dreamily stated “Ben is a really great guy!”

It was the next morning as I attempted to move that I realized Jennifer Lawrence and I both had Great Falls on Sunday except there were obvious differences in how we fell.

Jennifer Lawrence falls up the stairs and is greeted by a handsome French Actor.

I am greeted by a husband making a concerned face  “Why on earth did you wear those shoes? Sesh! It looked like it really hurt! I mean ow!”

Jennifer Lawrence receives a standing ovation from the whole academy.

My children exclaim “Wow! Mom that didn’t look good.”

Jennifer Lawrence gets whisked away to the media room holding her beautiful golden Oscar with tears of joy in her eyes.

I get whisked away to the ER and try not to cry that really awful sobbing cry.

Jennifer Lawrence I imagine then goes to fabulous parties.

I go home to the sofa consoled by  the comfort of an ice pack and fuzzy blanket.

Jennifer Lawrence (I’m assuming) goes to bed with some beautiful creature.

I go to bed with my dog who attempts to ram her paws into my back in the middle of the night.

Jennifer Lawrence is the winner!

I am really not comparing who had the worst fall  it is obvious both of us had  disastrous outcomes.  I mean it must be terrible for Jennifer Lawrence to look beautiful under such pressure and survive such a calamity. I  also know I can relate to how tough it is to get back up and dust yourself off after that last fall! Phew! It’s a lot of work!

I would also like to thank  Ben Affleck for the inspiration for the last closing lines of this post.

Do you have a memorable fall? Was it as glamorous as Jennifer Lawrence’s?

The Cost of a Bikini: How Much Are You Willing to Spend?

It was over the holidays my husband gave me fifty dollar  gift certificate to splurge at a local swimwear shop for our upcoming vacation. What he did not realize was that one bikini bottom costs close to a hundred dollars in this shop. One very tiny bikini bottom.

carry on full of bikinis

I  just smiled at his kind gesture and said, “Thank you!”

Over the weekend he asked, “Honey! When are you going to use your gift certificate?”

I took that as a cue to buy myself a new bikini.

I walked into the shop over-whelmed at the prices and trying to find anything in my size on sale.

I settled for a two piece number which cost close to two hundred dollars. I thought to myself this better have special butt lifting powers…

It did not.

So in the end after trying on several costly bikini’s I settled for one flimsy cover-up that was on sale for sixty-nine dollars. I only had to spend nineteen which still felt like an extravagant splurge.

I came home to a very enthusiastic husband, “What did you get?”

“Umm. I got this.”

“That is all you got for fifty dollars.”

“Actually is was sixty-nine dollars.The gift certificate was a wonderful idea but next time pick a cheaper shop.”

He was slightly surprised by the cost and exasperated “Why are women’s swimsuits so expensive?”

” I do not know. However, that is  a very good question.”

How much are you willing to spend on a bathing suit or bikini?

The Devilish Coyote

The coyote is a symbol in Native American culture in many creation stories always playing the central role as hero, creationist, or devious trickster.  Some of the traits of the coyote are similar to many human faults that we all can relate too from lust to greed. The coyote is a reminder that not all living things can be trusted and sometimes even the most altruistic intentions can become corruptible.

Coyote on Tunnel Mountain

In the myth The Coyote and the Spying Moon  he is portrayed as a trickster god who stepped forward to be the moon in the sky to assist  people in order to work late into the evening.

It soon became evident that the  coyote was not doing this out of the goodness of his heart.  But instead was causing mischief on  his friends below by tattling on their deceptions and  spying on the women bathing at night.

It was after that final discovery  of his spying the people decided that he could no longer be the moon and  was taken down from the sky.

But the coyote one day being a flirty devil attempted to impress the ladies by juggling his eyes up high in the air. One day he threw one of his eyes so high, it got stuck in the sky and became the star Arcturus. So even now legend claims he is still keeping one eye on us all.

As I was in a deep slumber early the other morning I thought  heard laughter and thought, “Wow! It’s 5:30 in the morning our neighbors like to party.”

As I began to awake a little more it was clear that it was not laughter but the sound of coyotes across the street. It sounded like they had caught their morning feast as they howled and snarled in the cold wind.

“Honey! Do you hear that?”

My husband rolled over, “What?”

“That noise.”

“Oh! It’s geese!”

“Geese! It’s not geese! It is coyotes!”

“Birds. Dear. Just birds. Go back to bed.”

I rolled over and attempted to go back to sleep.  “Yes. Honey. Geese in -15 Celsius weather. Yes. Dear.”

I believe at that moment the coyote was being a devious trickster that had cast its magical spell on my sleeping husband.  As I walked the kids to school that morning we could hear the coyotes chatting in the distance.

My kids moved a little closer to me as the noise grew louder!

“Do you think they are looking at us for breakfast?”

“No. You are too sweet. But just to be on the safe side if you see one in the school playground back away slowly, put your hands up high to appear bigger, go inside, and find a supervisor.”

Just as the myth states the coyote is always watching and people have to be on the lookout for what could be right before our eyes in this city landscape.  You never know what devious tricks they could be up too and cause harm within the blink of an eye.  Coyotes are sly, they can  blend in the snow, and you never know when they could be watching you with their eye in the sky.

Do you have a favorite mythological animal or character? What lessons have you learned from their great myths?

Dreaming the Day Away

My husband and I made a pact after staying our first frigid winter in Edmonton that we would save for one sunny destination each year. We vowed never to go through a full winter without  a break ever, again. The lack of vitamin D, staring at the grey skies, and getting excited over the weather going up to -5C is depressing.

It is enough to drive anyone crazy!

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It is with excitement I will be packing my bags for fun in the sun and lounging poolside enjoying the warm breezes of Punta Cana. I am also taking A Blogger Tip A Day with me. Since it is a 365 day project it means that there is no time to stop blogging.

The tips I have are wonderful! But many of them cannot go on vacation with me!  I will not be cleaning closets, organizing fridges, and hopefully not battling a pesky virus.

However, I would love your vacation tips!

  • What are your favorite things to pack?
  • How do you maintain a fitness routine?
  • Eating healthy on vacation – is it possible?
  • Is there a certain drink or food I should try?
  • What are your favorite activities and things to do on vacation?

Please share your tips with me in the comments or if you are to shy to comment please feel free to drop me a line at abloggertipaday@yahoo.ca.

If your tip is chosen your name will be placed  a monthly draw for a twenty-five dollar I-Tunes gift card. So get those tips rolling in!

What are your favorite vacation tips?

Catty Comments: How Do You Handle Them?

Lois P. Frankel one of  tidbits of advice in Nice Girls Don’t Get the Corner Office is when you deal with opposition, negative comments, is to surround yourself with a shield of plexiglass. It is unbreakable, impenetrable, and will allow for you to move forward without dwelling on that one comment or suggestion.  If, we dwell on it too much it can harm us from going further in where we want to go.

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It would be nice if we were all made to be human robots and be able to move forward without being phased from that one passive aggressive comment or resisting the urge to smack the smug satisfactory look that comes across their face when they attempt to cut you at the knees. But does surrounding yourself with imaginary plexiglass really work?

At some point we have been in that scenario and are left off guard wondering “Did that person really just say that about me?”

In a perfect world everyone would get along and sing Kumbaya around the campfire roasting marshmallows. However, there is always competing interests, different points of view, and sometimes people just do not get along. It’s a fair assumption to realize not everyone will like each other.

It’s off-setting when you hear a off-hand remark when you assume the person is a friend. I think it is at that moment the plexiglass shield crumbles and leaves you left wondering what did you do to get on their catty side. The best thing to do is recognize what it is, be more wary, and move forward with the understanding of caution when dealing with this relationship.

We all have been cut  at the knees by words especially if used with the right flare of gusto and delivery. But it is those words that are a reminder of who that person really is and when to take a step back to evaluate the relationship for better or worse. Our time in life is precious and in an ideal world it should be spent on the growth of positive relationships and not the negativity of others.

So when someone goes out of their way to make you feel small are they worth your time? How do you handle catty comments?

Reaching for Freedom

The other morning  I was listening to Jian Ghomeshi interview  J.K. Rowling about her new novel “Casual Vacancy” and she said something that struck me, “You have to be free to fail in this life.” She pointed out our creative work should never be an imitation of our previous selves and then we have to be willing to take chances in order to evolve in our work. 098

I know we are all destined to fall on our face from time to time but sometimes the fall is life’s greatest lesson.  We grow and learn from our mistakes which propel us to move forward to take the next chance, work hard, and embrace lady luck.

We have the freedom to move forward and know that there are a world of possibilities.

We all face challenges and obstacles but how we rise above these is the common testament to our strength, will, and creative spirit. So at the start of 2013 I will begin my 365 Day Blog Project and smile knowing that is one small project which may succeed or fail. But that  is all up to me!

Do you believe  a life well lived is one from learning from our failures?

A Blogger Thanks

As I stumbled across 365 Days of Gratitude’s blog this morning  it made me reflect on the year and realize that I do not give  enough thanks to the people in my life.  In my heart I feel gratitude each day for the little and big things that make each day complete.

Some days are good, others can go horribly wrong, and the one thing we all know is life is never a steady ride. It is bumpy, slow, and sometimes moves too fast. But it is how we hold onto the wheel and the company we keep that keeps us going.

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I want to say Thank You to everyone in the blogging community for their support, visits, uplifting posts, humor, wit, and wisdom. Each of you in your own unique way has brightened my day and brought a smile to my face while I sip my coffee.

If you could give thanks for one thing in 2012 what would it be?

A Special Holiday Message

Happy Holidays!

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