In Hilary Grossman’s charming debut memoir Dangled Carat, she opens her heart sharing her story of finding love and the follies that many relationships face on the road to commitment. It is the story of the “not so perfect romance” and one we can all relate too. Hilary, gives an honest look at finding love as she patiently attempts to manage the commitment-phobic man from running out the door.
She divulges the one fear many of us face:
I still don’t ask for much. I have always feared disappointment and rejection. If you don’t ask, you can’t be told no. At my core, even though I may pretend otherwise, I am an insecure girl. And if I am honest with myself, I think that is the reason why I have been willing to accept my relationship with Marc completely on his terms. I didn’t feel like I deserved a guy like him and I was afraid if I pushed my wants and needs too hard he would end the relationship. I felt settling was better than losing him.
I suspect at one point and time if we are all honest with ourselves there is that voice in our head that never wants to ask for too much. Sometimes the fear of rejection is just too much and it hurts more than one can ever expect. The key is getting over those insecurities and no longer be willing to just settle.
Life is about taking risks and Hilary takes the big leap to open her heart to find love. She proves that love does happen when you least expect it. It is a reminder that nobody is perfect and it is never easy to give up your heart. But when you do find the right love it is worth it in the end.