On those quiet summer evenings there is a joy to skipping on rocks around the lake. It requires some methodical contemplation surmising where you want to hop next by assessing the size, shape, and proximity of the rock. In life … Continue reading
I eyed it at the sports store and couldn’t resist! Almost every day it calls my name and taunts me to play, “Just for a minute! Only a minute!” How can I resist such a round shape, simple to whip … Continue reading
The moment you catch yourself gazing out over the vast landscape can be your shining light of inspiration while if you were to stare out across a garbage pit it could force you recoil from everything you have ever known. … Continue reading
I grew up in a small town where everyone knew your business or pretended to know your business. You wore your last name as an emblem of who you were with no hope of change because no one in your … Continue reading
As I tossed and turned throughout the night my mind raced over words, ideas, and the connection of people in this world. It bothered me how easily people were led by the pied piper playing his flute. One by one they drunk his music following blindly without thinking that his manipulation was not for the common good but only for his gain.
We see it time and time again as history bound to repeat itself with charismatic leaders allow their followers to drink their poison. How does something like Jonestown? Or Waco happen? How do smart people follow without question? And when they do question the person raising their voice in authority they submit only because that person raised their voice that much louder?
I finally dosed off after an hour of a racing mind and fell into a haze in where I was walking down a busy street. I was trying to drown out the nose to calm what was bothering me. My feet hit the pavement that much faster and harder trying to escape all of it.
One song became the background music as I rushed down those frenetic streets with no destination in mind. I knew it was time to move away from the irrelevant noise of the past because none of it was no longer my concern. If I listened any longer to the piper or the sorrow of the town it would only break my own heart.
How do you tune out the irrelevant noise?
After we put the kids to bed for the evening we opened a bottle of wine and sat by the crackling fire. It was there we discussed our summer plans and enjoyed the smoky warmth of the cabin. It was only in the distance we could hear the faint sound of snow running off the mountainside.
An hour later we heard a similar noise and this time the cabin began to shake for several minutes. We looked at each other, clutching our wine glasses, in awe of the sheer force of the avalanche rumbling in the far distance.
It was one of those first warm springtime days which was the perfect condition for an avalanche in the area. The sun had beat down its warmth on top of the snowy peaks to grace us with its springtime beauty.
An avalanche is dangerous, its loud, and sometimes unpredictable. You never know which way the snow will run off the mountainside. Sometimes transitions in life are just as unpredictable but always for the better.
The sun has a quiet way of waking up the world and it cues the changes of the season. Once the snow is shed from the mountain there is a welcoming beauty which is fervent for change.
What do you love about the arrival of spring?
RIP Roger Ebert: The Pulitzer Prize-winning movie critic, who wrote for the Chicago Sun-Times for more than 45 years, died on Thursday, April 4, at age 70, after a long struggle with cancer. Two days earlier, Ebert had announced he was taking a “leave of presence” from his job, writing:
“What in the world is a leave of presence? It means I am not going away. My intent is to continue to write selected reviews but to leave the rest to a talented team of writers handpicked and greatly admired by me. What’s more, I’ll be able at last to do what I’ve always fantasized about doing: reviewing only the movies I want to review.
At the same time, I am re-launching the new and improved Rogerebert.com and taking ownership of the site under a separate entity, Ebert Digital, run by me, my beloved wife, Chaz, and our brilliant friend, Josh Golden of Table XI. Stepping away from the day-to-day grind will enable me to continue as a film critic for the Chicago Sun-Times, and roll out other projects under the Ebert brand in the coming year.”
Ebert wrote in the introduction of his book, The Great Movies, “Of all the arts, movies are the most powerful aid to empathy, and good ones make us into better people.”
My memories of Roger Ebert start from when I was a young girl, watching him spar on Siskel and Ebert at the Movies every Sunday afternoon. As a haughty young 11-year-old, I was always ready to question his judgement, and went into shock that Ebert never liked Dirty Dancing. I remember rolling my eyes and looking at my friend, “What does he know? I can’t believe he doesn’t like it? They consider him a critic.” Continue Reading at BlogHer
We were nestled in the back country over the Easter break with a small cabin, hearty fireplace, and a balcony which offered a view of the world. On Saturday I took advantage of the warm sun and rented snow shoes for a rendezvous with nature.
“What trail is the best to do?”
“Trail? Just go out to the middle of the lake.”
“Well, is there a trail?”
“Yes. But you should just stay on the lake.”
“You need to avoid the avalanche run-off and the other trail is icy.”
“The lake is the perfect condition for snowshoeing and it’s beautiful. Keep it simple!”
I slid on my snow shoes and listened to the crackle of snow beneath my feet. It felt like the perfect morning as I wandered out to the middle of the lake admiring the spectacular views.
I was alone in the silence there was no chatter in my head, no noise coming from behind, just the sound of the birds in the trees as the warm sun began to beat down on my face. It was by keeping it simple, avoiding the ice, that I was able to enjoy such a peaceful experience. Sometimes the least resistance can be the best path to take on the unknown journey.
How do you keep it simple?
It was over two years ago my oldest son and I sat in the Houston airport reading “Consumed” it was about Hendrick Coetzee an adventurer who took his kayak through some of Africa’s most treacherous waters. He lived for the adventure and died at the hands of a Nile crocodile.
As we read on with the story and the horror of his disappearance my son looked on with awe and wonder “Why would anyone do that in the first place?” It is a good question is it for the rush of adrenalin? The thrill? Overcoming your fear?
It was this past weekend we watched 60 minutes with Anderson Cooper and he went diving with Nile crocodiles. My same son looked on “Why is he so close to that crocodile? It’s staring right at him!” In our observation Anderson Cooper did not seem to be in fear of the crocodile but a curious onlooker in the depths of a ravenous reptiles den.
The parallel between these two men is they both appear fearless but how did they overcome that fear? We all have our own Goliath’s to face whether it be a Nile crocodile or the avoidance of something that affects our daily lives. Malcolm Gladwell writes about the great battle of David and Goliath “When underdogs choose not to play by Goliath’s rules, they win, Arreguín-Toft concluded, “even when everything we think we know about power says they shouldn’t.”
If the Nile crocodile was Goliath than Anderson Cooper would be David as he stared face first into the eyes of the carnivorous reptile recognizing that he could get close because crocodiles can only look to the surface and second that they move much more sluggish in the winter.
Unfortunately, Hendrick Coetzee was on top of the water in his kayak which lead to his tragic end because a crocodile can always look up. If you are floating above the murky water you never really know what is lurking in the depths of the current. Regardless, of how cautious you are when tackling Goliath there is still the unknown and the possibility of failure.
As a nervous Nelly the moment I see a snake I usually jump and run the other way. I am missing that one factor to be calm in the face of danger and am more apt to take flight. This response comes from the fear centre of the brain which scientists attempt to examine the link between what makes some people run and others remain calm in the face of fear.
Scientific American points out, “People seem to have more than one way to work themselves into a panic. Contrary to a long-standing assumption of neuroscientists, humans can experience fear even when they lack the brain structure widely regarded as the brain’s ‘fear center’. ” As for many of us if something increases our anxiety such as swimming with crocodiles or playing with snakes we are more apt to avoid these dangerous situations. The more we avoid our fears the more apt we are to view this as a failure and feed our fears more.
It is suggested in Psychology Today that we need to expose ourselves to the things that make us anxious and tackle the problem head on. Such as the he more we expose ourselves to crocodiles the more apt we are to become more comfortable in their surroundings.
“On the psychological level, confronting your fear instead of backing down brings about a sense of accomplishment and empowerment. Every time you confront your fear you gain power while your anxiety loses strength (I can tolerate it; it’s difficult but not impossible; it’s not the end of the world). Every time you confront your fear you accumulate evidence of your ability to cope (I did it yesterday; I can do it again today)”
It is this ability to cope which enables you to succeed in confronting your fears for better or worse in your life. What we can learn from adventurers such as Cooper and Coetzee? Perhaps, it is that they both were willing to face their Goliath in order to explore unchartered territories. If you can fail today and succeed tomorrow is that not truly a life worth living. Sometimes even if we do fail in the face of fear is it still not a life of one well lived and loved in each moment.
How do you tackle your fears? Or do you prefer to avoid what scares you?
I am going to be honest and reconcile that 2013 has not been the best year for me. I have been gritting my teeth, stalled in one place, and recognize that it is time to move forward on an unknown path. I have decided to move forward on this first day of spring as my New Year a renewal of who I am and who I will be in the future.
In Umair Haque’s short essay How to Have a Year that Matters he points that as we move forward we need to look beyond ourselves in order to live our life to the absolute fullest because our only enemy is time.
“Follow your passion, we’re often told. But how do you find your passion? Let me put it another way: what is it that breaks your heart about the world? It’s there that you begin to find what moves you. If you want to find your passion, surrender to your heartbreak. Your heartbreak points towards a truer north — and it’s the difficult journey towards it that is, in the truest sense, no mere passing idyllic infatuation, but enduring, tempestuous passion.”
It is that enduring passion which breaks your heart because nothing has ever been created without some fear of rejection. The thought of believing in something so big but the whole time it never believed in you. Was it ever really your true North?
As I turn a page in the next chapter and celebrate my new year by staring at the bleak outside and know that soon the snow will melt, the cold will vanish. The sun will rise, the tulips will bloom, and the world will shine, again. I will discover my North Star with trepidation and excitement. I will follow it and let it guide me through the roughest times.
As Haque points out:
“For the simple, timeless truth is: You’ll never find the rapture of accomplishment in mere conquest, the incandescence of happiness in mere possession, or the searing wholeness of meaning in mere desire. You can find them only — only — in the exploration of the fullness of human possibility.”
It is from this day I forward I am going to use my ability to make the choice to live my life to the fullest potential and possibility. It will be full of laughter, happiness, pain, rejection, and heartache. It’s time to starting have a year that matters!
How do you have a year that matters?