Lois P. Frankel one of tidbits of advice in Nice Girls Don’t Get the Corner Office is when you deal with opposition, negative comments, is to surround yourself with a shield of plexiglass. It is unbreakable, impenetrable, and will allow for you to move forward without dwelling on that one comment or suggestion. If, we dwell on it too much it can harm us from going further in where we want to go.
It would be nice if we were all made to be human robots and be able to move forward without being phased from that one passive aggressive comment or resisting the urge to smack the smug satisfactory look that comes across their face when they attempt to cut you at the knees. But does surrounding yourself with imaginary plexiglass really work?
At some point we have been in that scenario and are left off guard wondering “Did that person really just say that about me?”
In a perfect world everyone would get along and sing Kumbaya around the campfire roasting marshmallows. However, there is always competing interests, different points of view, and sometimes people just do not get along. It’s a fair assumption to realize not everyone will like each other.
It’s off-setting when you hear a off-hand remark when you assume the person is a friend. I think it is at that moment the plexiglass shield crumbles and leaves you left wondering what did you do to get on their catty side. The best thing to do is recognize what it is, be more wary, and move forward with the understanding of caution when dealing with this relationship.
We all have been cut at the knees by words especially if used with the right flare of gusto and delivery. But it is those words that are a reminder of who that person really is and when to take a step back to evaluate the relationship for better or worse. Our time in life is precious and in an ideal world it should be spent on the growth of positive relationships and not the negativity of others.
So when someone goes out of their way to make you feel small are they worth your time? How do you handle catty comments?