Do you ever have one of those moments where you stop listening to your partner in the middle of a disagreement? It feels like you are speaking in Greek and they are speaking tongues neither of you getting the point of the conversation. It’s at those moments you want to throw your hands up in frustration and scream “I give up!”
I know exactly when my hands begin to flail that I have failed communication 101. It is that crazy thing called active listening that I forget when trying to prove my point to my significant other.
My ultimate goal is to be right! I want to be one step ahead of the debate – ready to throw my opponent under the bus. However, there is the odd time we are debating but oblivious that we agree on the same valid points.
It was just the other day I listened to my two little men have one of those conversations.
“Robert, have you seen my Nintendo DS?”
“I saw it last year!”
“The last time I saw it was last week!”
“Yes! That was last year!”
“No Robert! That was Last week!”
“Alex, that was last year!”
As I listened to Robert torment his brother and chuckle as he waited for Alex to realize last year was last week. It reminds me that we need not hear but intently listen to what the individual is actually telling you. Sometimes it can make all the difference in how we communicate with others on the off-chance that we both might be right.
Have you ever debated your point until you are blue in the face only to realize your opponent agrees with you?